What love is, is embracing your partner for the way they are, and not complaining about the way they are.
- John Gray
On the most recent episode of my podcast, Unplugged with Brandon Steiner, I spoke with relationship counselor, lecturer and author, John Gray.
In his new book Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills for Today's Complex World, John Gray talks about the keys to maintaining a successful marriage. More then anything he stresses the importance of having a relationship that is successful in consistently creating intimacy.
Throughout this entire conversation there is one word that should stand out to you, anticipation. Both men and women become satisfied when they are able to anticipate satisfaction.
He explains how when a women is planning to go on a date, she will anticipate that date days before hand. She will think about her outfit, her schedule for the day, and most importantly if the man will fulfill the romantic rituals expected such as buying flowers or holding the car door. This anticipation is what will lead to increased estrogen in the body, which will lead to a more intimate relationship.
For men on the other hand, if you are at work and anticipate making a lot of money from a job, or are an athlete anticipating success on the field, your testosterone will double!
My favorite piece of advice from John, is his reasoning as to why wives should let their husbands watch more sports. He proclaims that this will bring men back to their days of participating in athletics, and will help increase their testosterone level, which will lead to a more enjoyable evening!
There is so much to learn from this, and I can't stress enough the importance of maintaining a healthy relationship with your significant other, because the effects of that relationship will effect every other aspect of your life.
In this episode we talk about...
- Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills for Today's Complex World
- How to keep your marriage alive
- The detriments of Viagra
- Fantasy vs. Reality
- The effect of hormones on relationships
- Communicating your needs with your significant other
- ...and more.