Having A Lot Of Likes Won't Make You Like Yourself

You can have all the money, fame, Facebook likes, popular Instagram accounts, and thousands of contacts and yes, you can still be miserable.

One of the biggest issues I see these days with many people is that they forget there's more to life than likes, followers, and connections. People are following people they think they know, but don't actually know.

Just because you've figured out a way to make a ton of money or accumulate a big following doesn't make you an influencer in life.

In fact, I've got BIG news for you -

It doesn't change things when you go home.

It doesn't change things with your real friends.

Rarely will it get you the corner office you want.

The reality is, the garbage still has to be taken out and your kids still may need a bath.

My wife always tells me foreplay starts when you unload the dishwasher!

Your boss may or may not appreciate all the time you spend tweeting or posting. This artificial status you've achieved won't help you if your best friend is going through something and all they need is a hug or a face-to-face talk.

Just because you figured out how to connect with people doesn't make you really popular, does it? Or happy, for that matter?

You can tweet all day long, but are you communicating to the most important people at the most important times?

Every day I tell myself that "the most important thing has to be the most important thing for the most important people."

I was looking at an op-ed piece written by Bret Stephens in the New York Times that my friend Ivan Ross turned me on to the other day. Stevens wrote:

"Tweeting and trolling are easy. Mastering the arts of conversation and measured debate is hard. Texting is easy. Writing a proper letter is hard. Looking stuff up on Google is easy. Knowing what to search for in the first place is hard. Having a thousand friends of Facebook is easy. Maintaining six or seven close adult friendships over the space of many years is hard. Swiping right on Tinder is easy. Finding love - and staying in it - is hard."

My LinkedIn guru Swish Goswami is just 20 years old and has maybe more followers than Jesus Christ. He recently said this in a post:

"Don’t let social media fool you. There are people with only 5-10 likes who have plenty of friends. People with 100+ likes who are incredibly lonely. Couples who look happy together, yet are miserable as hell. People who don’t post pictures of themselves and their significant other but are in a beautiful loving relationship. People who know each other very well but appear as strangers. People who are up their neck in debt yet live a lavish social media life. Remember, this is not real life. Appearances are just that, appearances..."

I don't know where all of this social media is going. Not one bit. But what I do know for sure, is that I've got to go unload the dishwasher right now.


Quote of the Day:  “Everybody thinks they’re famous when they get 100,000 followers on Instagram and 5,000 on Twitter.” – Meek Mill

Song of the Day: "Against The Wind" by Bob Seger & The Silver Bullet Band

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