I’m so proud of my son Crosby. He’s on the verge of completing a five-year honors program at the University of Michigan where he’ll graduate with both his Bachelor’s and Master’s degrees in Engineering. Next year Crosby will begin his career with Deloitte Consulting.
I asked him what he would say about his time rising up through high school and college after reflecting on his experience, and his answer made me even more proud. He has such an introspective view on life. He shared with me what he’s learned…and I just had to share it with you. If you're a parent of any high school or college kid, or if you are in high school or college, this post is for you.
Enjoying some great times with my son Crosby over the past few years
- Pick where you go to college for the "wrong" reasons. Sports, weather, social scene, etc. If those things are important to you now, they will still matter when you’re there.
- Savor your fleeting moments. There are a lot of experiences you'll have that you just won't ever be able to recreate.
- Meeting people should be your number one priority.
- Classes are easy…a lot easier than upper level classes. Set the bar high for your GPA.
- Effectively manage your time. If you don't go to class, your grade suffers. Period. But, just being in class doesn’t mean you're going to learn (especially if you spend the entire time playing snake on your phone).
- Write a resume: You might not think you have enough to put on there now, but you will. Use what you do have as a base to start with. Always ask someone to review it.
- Recruiters have great memories: go to career fairs, corporate events and presentations. They’ll be calling you when you do need an internship/job. Besides, you get free food.
- Join a club. Become president of said club. Fill formerly empty resume.
- The people you choose to spend the most time with will have the greatest effect on your happiness. Choose wisely, and don’t be afraid to re-evaluate who you’re hanging out with every so-often
- See the value in any experience: I passed up the chance to spend three months roaming around Europe so I could take an internship and add another line on my resume. I quickly learned the true value of those two options.
- Enjoy yourself: Reap the rewards of your hard work by taking every opportunity to enjoy time with friends and family.
- Go on a road trip: there is nothing more exciting than getting in a car and seeing the country. Stop anywhere and everywhere you can south of the mason dixon line for BBQ and/or Chik-fil-a
- Savor your fleeting moments. There are a lot of experiences you'll have that you just won't ever be able to recreate. (Sound familiar?).
- Get a job: Take the process seriously, but don’t get caught up in what opportunities your friends are getting. Run your own race.
- Seize the moment: I once got a call from a buddy during class. He said he had a ticket to the Michigan-OSU basketball game in Columbus. Tip-off was in six hours and we were 200 miles away…it was a great game.
- Final thought: At an event for students in my five-year program, I had a conversation with the program’s benefactor and namesake, an extremely successful real estate developer. As he discussed his houses in Vail, Florida and New York, I exclaimed how exciting that must be. I'll never forget his reply:
"Yeah, having houses across the globe gives my wife something to do, but its all bullshit. I couldn’t care less about them. The only thing that matters in life is relationships with friends and family. That’s it"